In Sharon Fitzmaurice’s podcast last week I spoke about taking time to do something for yourself. All too often we say ‘I’d love to take up painting’ or ‘I’d love to do that course’ but tell ourselves the timing isn’t right, or there isn’t time at all, and so on. I talk about juggling work, the kids, and courses, but believe me, there are more days where I don’t do very well than days that I do.
I waste a lot of time scrolling through my phone, and one of the biggest things for me is Candy Crush. I could be sitting in bed playing until all the lives run out. Afterwards, I am annoyed at myself, because that time would have been so much better spent getting lost in a novel and falling asleep with a book on my chest. And the next day, I complain to my whole family that I have no time to myself to read that book I have been looking at for months on end!
So, what is the key?
Again - easier said than done. But for me, and for my clients, imagining reaching the goal is what works best. A few years ago I was thinking about setting up a hypnotherapy training school and I did nothing for a long time. I was afraid I’d fail, that I’d be a useless teacher, that no one would sign up for my courses. Or worse, that they WOULD sign up, and I’d be committed to delivering brilliant material for 10 months.
I had two scenarios in my head.
One - where I didn’t set up a school, but continued to think about it for years on end and wish I had just done it.
Two - where I had been teaching 5 or 6 years and was so experienced at it that it was just like a normal day at work.
The second scenario obviously appealed to me so much more and every time I thought of it, I'd feel excitement, motivation, enthusiasm. Every time I imagined the first scenario, I felt regret (even though it hadn’t happened yet - future pacing!) and panicked that I’d feel that way forever. Do you know what I mean? What are the things you would like to have done that still make you feel sick when you think about them now? Could you go for it? What do you need to do? How would it feel, what would it look like, where would you be now?
When you say you don’t have time, how much of your time is wasted (like mine, on Candy Crush!) that could be spent building your dream, or your hobby, or your course?
Today, pick one of the things you’ve put off, or made up reasons in your head as to why it can’t happen, and imagine having it done. Write down what life looks like. Feel how good it feels. You could have that feeling for real. Could you go for it?
I think you could.
And there will still be time for Candy Crush...!
P.S. I did set up that hypnotherapy school! It's now in it's 5th year (however, on a break - like everything else - due to covid). You can find out more about it over here. And yes, it was the right decision!
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