C H I L D H O O D
The foundations of who you are.
Your childhood determines how you see the world, how you see yourself, how you deal with things, how you think about things, what your values are, how you work, how you live, how you love, how you parent, everything.
A troubled childhood doesn't necessarily mean you'll have a troubled life. But you might. Just as a happy childhood doesn't necessarily mean you'll be successful, but you might. The 'nature vs nurture' debate has long been discussed the world over. The difference here is your resilience, your determination, your belief in yourself, your knowledge from the world and education, and so many other factors. But ultimately, how you deal with things in life come from childhood.
One child might take a criticism and turn it inward, and it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Another child might take that same criticism and find a fire within, a determination to prove the world wrong - and they do.
Events don't have to have been deliberate acts intended to upset; often, people don't realise what damage a simple passing comment can cause.
How does your childhood affect you, good and bad? What if you could use your mind/brain to change things you'd like to change, to stop damaging stories, beliefs, and scars from causing any more harm? What would you be like now, who would you be, if things had been different?
There is always a way to heal. You can't change the past - but you can step into your future - it's in your hands. I can and have helped hundreds of people move forward from upsetting memories, so they can create a life they are secure in. Get in touch if this is something you feel you could benefit from.
If you have a fear of dogs, you can choose to feel the way you feel about fluffy rabbits instead. If you smoke, you can choose to live your life as a non-smoker, forever. If you dread going to work every morning, you can change that feeling to feel the way when you do the weekly shop, for example (not hugely excited, but ok all the same). If you feel overwhelmed, you can train your mind to become focused, tidy and organised. If you struggle in any area of life, it doesn't have to be that way. So often, we think 'it's just the way I am' and surrender to our feelings, responses, characteristics. But if they cause you distress, they can and should be changed! It is far easier than you might think. Get in touch to find out how I could help you.
Think about it - we are all about instant gratification these days, especially as we are coming out of restrictions and lockdowns. We don't have to be bored - ever - we can watch whatever we want, whenever we want. Our children are handed iPads wherever they are, whenever. Restaurants, family gatherings, you see it everywhere. We are constantly being distracted by our outside world. What's the problem? The problem is, we still have problems. We still have stresses, but we are losing the ability to deal with them. We still have things to do, jobs to go to, and responsibilities to honour. So what happens when all this gets too much?
One of my children is a bit sad this week, due to another child being mean at school. Obviously as a parent this is a horrible thing to hear, and a difficult situation to be in. This morning I used a technique with her which I do actually use myself sometimes, and share with my clients for a whole number of reasons.
I told her to imagine she has a protective shield all around her, like a bubble, or anything she wants it to be. I told her to imagine that if anyone says anything mean to her, the words come towards her, they hit the shield and they bounce away from her.
‘You know when you throw a rubber ball against a wall and it bounces everywhere really quickly, before slowing down and eventually stopping?’
She started to laugh. ‘Yes!’
‘Well, it's a bit like that. When anyone says anything mean, it comes towards you, hits the shield and bounces away from you.’
‘Does the other person feels it?’
‘No, they don't, but they might soon get bored and stop.’
‘So it's like magic?’
‘Maybe, but really, it’s that you have the power to choose what words you will accept from people. Any time nice things are happening or nice things are being said, those things can get through the shield, but anything that's not nice will just bounce away. You can't stop people from being mean or saying mean things but you can always have your shield to protect you from their words. What colour is your bubble?’
It’s pink!’ She replied.
In the car, she shared the technique with her siblings, and they all walked into school giggling and imagining rubber balls bouncing all over the place which they can sit back and imagine, any time it’s necessary.
Try it with your children any time they are upset by someone else’s behaviour, and see how empowered it can help them feel. 💕
We become aware of who we are when we are children, and expectations of how we are to be treated, really set in. It is so important to make sure our children know when they can stand up and decide how they will be treated. We often hear of people having been bullied or picked on, 'all my life' - it starts at a young age and they become a target. By empowering them as young as possible, to be able to choose what they will and won't accept, we can stop the pattern of this as soon as it starts.
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